The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system that secretes a fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. It is about the size of a walnut and sits between the bladder and penis, in front of the rectum. The urethra, which carries semen and urine, passes through the prostate.
Insert a lube and gloved finger about 2-3 inches inside the anus to find the prostate. When you are excited, the gland may swell and feel like a marble. The prostate can also be stimulated indirectly through the perineum (the skin between the scrotum and the anus).
Prostatic orgasms are reported to be similar to penile orgasms, but more intense and full. Not everyone will ejaculate during a prostatic orgasm, but some people may secrete milky fluid from the urethral opening during such an orgasm.
There are various techniques for stimulating the prostate, including
“Come here” motion: Insert the lube finger into the anus, then bend it upward in a “come here” motion toward the navel. Repeat the movement gradually, increasing the speed as needed.
Draw circles: Use your finger pads to draw circles around the prostate gland. Experiment with different speeds and pressures to find what feels best.
“Doorbell” technique: Place the finger pad on the outside of the prostate and press gently, as if ringing a doorbell. Vary the intensity and interval of the press to find your sweet spot.
Sex toys also help with prostate play. The We-Vibe Vector prostate massager, for example, can be adjusted to suit individual needs and comes with a remote control that cycles through ten vibration Settings. Its tapered tip makes it easy to insert and stimulates both the prostate and perineum for an even better experience.